What to do when no one wants your Reiki

What to do when no one wants your Reiki

It’s unavoidable, at some point, you will run into someone that does not want Reiki no matter how appealing you make it sound or how excited you are about it. It could be religious reasons, scientific reasons, personal reasons you don’t understand, they just don’t want to try it out. It can be frustrating at times, but it doesn’t have to be.  So what do you do when this happens?

What to do when no one wants your Reiki

First, don’t do Reiki under the radar. That’s a huge unethical no no. If they said no respect their decision. Don’t try to convince them that it’s the greatest thing since Netflix. Don’t tell them it will cure whatever ails them. Just let them be.

Second, don’t take it personally. Really, it’s none of your business why they don’t want Reiki. If they sound open to it and continue asking questions, but not comfortable with receiving Reiki right now continue talking to them about it. In this case, it’s best to share your personal experiences rather than try and explain Reiki, but don’t push the subject. If they flat out just don’t sound interested or open, drop it. Don’t feel bad about it and move on with your life. Don’t try to analyze why they are rejecting Reiki at this time. And don’t question their decision. They could be scared, they could be working through their own stuff in a different way, they may not be ready. Just let it go.

Third, do self-Reiki. Do self-Reiki to let go of why you wanted to share Reiki with the individual in the first place. Sure, it may help them, but it is ultimately their decision. You know it helps, so turn your hands to yourself and let go of any anger, worry, annoyance, etc. that you may be holding towards them. Release them in all ways.

Lastly, send the person gratitude for the lessons they gave you. Send the person love, but do not send them Reiki.

Have you had the experience where no one wanted Reiki? How did you handle it? Share your experiences in the comments below, I’d love to read them!

12 thoughts on “What to do when no one wants your Reiki”

  • Excellent article on a matter that sooner or later every Reiki practitioner does run into. Sierra, your suggestions are all spot on. Here’s what I’ve observed in my journey.

    For many years, I was certainly out there “doing Reiki”. And in this mode, there were always varieties of superb ups and also downs. As long as I was out there “doing Reiki” or even “offering Reiki”, this elation with the up and dejection with the down was unavoidable.

    As I practiced Reiki more, which the pursuit of traditional Reiki enabled for me, the inner journey deepened in the direction of recognition of “True Self” (which is the deeper inner meaning of the word Reiki in the first place). And with it arose the prospect of “Being Reiki”. When I let go my self-image, and drop into the natural state of being (“being Reiki”), there is no doing involved. In this space, presence also is an offering of healing. Whoever or whatever needs healing, whether they consciously are aware of it or not, receive the healing blessing of Reiki in the presence of one who is in the state of being, the state of presence, i.e. “being Reiki”. There is no asking, no judging the response, no doing something, or not doing something, no sending energy, no confusion about whether to ask for permission before sending energy etc. there is just a state of pure presence. This is what awaits all practitioners who decide to invest in their practice of Reiki as a deepening of their inner journey beyond its obvious external use as a healing art. Thank you for this wonderful and thought-provoking article again.

    • Thank you Sundar for your comment! You make many thought-provoking points yourself that many are still struggling with. I appreciate you taking the time to read and comment 🙂

  • My husband is one of these people, he thinks its all smoke and mirrors, if he can’t see it it doesn’t work (his ideals) i have tried to find out why but he isn’t that type of person (in any of the alternative areas) so i just gave up on trying on him, i probably accidentally give it to him when i’m sleeping who knows im asleep, reiki does what it does.

    • Sometimes it takes people awhile to come around. It took my dad a while and my sister is still not quite there, but she asks for Reiki on occasions. Some people just aren’t meant to “get it” and that’s totally okay 🙂

  • I love the way you express your thoughts in such a no nonsense, “reiki for dummies” sort of way (not meant in a bad way at all), it’s so clear, precise and fun. Thank you for sharing, I am so happy I was lead to your page and really appreciate you sharing your experiences. I too have come across a few (mostly family) people who for whatever reasons were not open to receiving reiki. I found this incredibly frustrating as I was excited about sharing my healing with them, it so felt like trying to convince them about the new “netflix” experience, and eventually it became a self lesson about letting go my attachment to what I saw as the answer for them, and also my attachment to why they wouldn’t accept my help. Letting go …. and remaining there for them if they changed their mind, sending them love if they don’t.

  • As a person whose spiritual journey has included a number of experiments and detours, I just don’t evangelize any more about anything. I think it’s intrusive and rude to try to push one’s beliefs on another. (In my opinion.) Reiki will go where it wants. I love the comment above about your simple presence being healing if you have grown in the principles and practice of Reiki. No judgment.

    • I agree that it’s rude and intrusive to push beliefs on others and that Reiki will go where it wants. That’s one of my favorite things about Reiki! Thanks for sharing Barbara! 🙂

  • I tried for 5 year to convince my best (!) friend to let me give her Reiki. What did finally turn a total I-do-not-believe?
    My own progress did. At one point she reliased that was not suffering from my killing migrane anymore. Other things increased like getting the last free parking space, having only green lights. etc. Little things but noticable things.
    She wondered what had happened and I explained to her that I finished my masters degree in Reiki and now had fun with it.
    Since then she learned about healing stones and became quite good with them. I am waiting for her to ask get the first Reiki degree.
    So never give up hope. People will come to you in their own time.

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